
forgive & forget
Caregiving ~ Alzheimer's ~ Dementia ~ Life

Things to
Contemplate

Finding New Teachers.
Considering Something New.
This is not about chanting, burning incense, wearing apostolic sandals
or climbing to a mountaintop only to freeze your arse off. Although be my guest.
This is about getting ideas that go deeper, beyond the "practical," whether it is the practical
side of caregiving, family politics, or challenging work environments.
Over many decades, I have collected a "pu-pu-platter" of various philosophies
from various thinkers - religious and secular. Ideas that, even now, help me survive -
maybe not perfectly or gracefully, but I, at least, try.
Combined, they guide me as a caregiver and as a human being. -Vic
RECENT RECOMMENDATIONS
Dan Millman

Jodi Taylor


I am a fan of listening to books and seminars.
I have been a student of Dan Millman's work for 25 years. He never disappoints.
I recommend any book by Jodi Taylor - as an escape, education,
or just good storytelling. I have found EVERY BOOK to be exceptional.
What do these books have to do with Caregiving?
Everything. Good literature or film,
no matter what form, i.e., educational, enjoyment, fictional or
non, has the power to teach and to change us. Never underestimate
the power of words in a good book, a good film, drama or comedy. Never. -Vic
Brene Brown

I listen to Brene Brown's
UNLOCKING US Podcasts on a regular basis. Extremely well done!
Brené and Alicia Keys
Fabulous interview! I knew very little about Alicia, and wow, she is quite a lady!
Brene Brown invites
David Kessler to discuss
Grief and Finding Meaning
A perfect listen for caregivers.
Bruce Springsteen & Barak Obama

What a complete blast to listen to! -Vic
"Obama and Springsteens Podcast is here to lull America."
The New Yorker

Listen exclusively on Spotify,
a FREE platform.
Just download the App.
Dr. Annette Childs

I have known Annette for 10 years. She was my counselor every week for 7 years after the death of my ex-husband, losing my 2 pups, a plane crash, the diagnosis of Mom's Alzheimer's and the leap into caregiving - all of which occurred within a 6-month
time-period in 2011.
I would not be alive today if it were
not for Annette.
Her wisdom and gifts continue to rock my world and guide my days. -Vic
Click photo above for Annette's website.
BLOGS
Thich Nhat Hanh
Pronounced "Tick Naht Haun 😉,
a Vietnamese Monk


Thich Nhat Hanh
On Super Soul Sunday
Oprah & Tara Westover

Tara Westover lived with her family of survivalists in the mountains of Idaho. Her brother was abusive, her circumstances were extreme. Tara got herself out, winding up at Cambridge University and Harvard. Author of the book Educated, Tara has something to teach us in her incredible story of guts, grace and perseverance.
Books
Finding New Teachers






Beautifully done-
you won't be disappointed . . .
Gabrielle Bernstein
Gabrielle Bernstein
"The Universe Has Your Back"
A Super Soul Series

"Trying To Control Something I Absolutely Cannot Control"
A personal word from Vic:
How many times have you wished things were different with caregiving?
I, personally, lost count.
Gabrielle gives 5 tips to help us accept our lives as they are,
rather than resisting, wishing, or demanding our lives be different.
Be open-minded to her words and wisdom. They will give you a sense of
relief, safety, and the true knowing you are exactly on the path you should be,
even if it is the most difficult path on the planet as a caregiver.
PS: Try not to get hung up on her words that may be alien or woo-woo, i.e.,
"Universe," "God," "Spirit," "Soul," "Spiritual," "Faith," etc.,
that is, if these words make you uncomfortable.
I never post anything I have not personally read, seen or listened to
The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
-Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
-Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
-Don’t go back to sleep.
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