Delegate and Educate

In reading past journals, I ran across a symptom of dementia that you may relate to.  It also gave me insight into something I wish I had known and practiced back then.

I began to notice that Mom’s calendar was filled with illegible, indecipherable words that looked like “spy codes.”  This, in part, explained why she was becoming unable to follow through with engagements and/ or appointments.  Consequently, I stayed behind her quietly managing her life on a daily basis. This was 5 years ago when she was diagnosed with “Stage 2,” Alzheimer’s.  I kept a copy of her calendar for myself which allowed me to know what she had scheduled for the day.  When we’d talk each morning, part of the conversation would always be, “So, what have you got planned for today, Mom?” I already knew, but I was still trying to respect her autonomy.