Cover Thy Tushy

If you are the primary caregiver in your family, I recommend keeping a strict account of everything you do every day.  Yesterday I spoke about my record keeping, which, I confess, is a bit over-the-top.  I admitted it was written partially out of fear.  Regardless, it’s still a good idea.  If you don’t already keep records, I recommend starting.  Do it for yourself, and do it for your loved one you are caring for. Make it a habit for both your sakes.



I hear horror stories all the time in Support Group and dementia classes where family members would tear one another apart with suspicions, accusations, even legal threats and actual lawsuits after their loved one has passed.  And every time – every time – the accused always says, “If I had just kept better records of what I did, I wouldn’t find myself at a defendant’s table.”


Keeping records will also help to answer honestly family member’s questions.  They will be surprised, and hopefully thrilled and supportive, that you refer to actual records to answer their questions.  Not only does it set a high accountability standard, but it draws a line in the sand ahead of time that you can be trusted.  It also gently says, “Please don’t question my care. You can count on me.  Just be on my side.”