The Accusation of Sexual Assault
“May I ask you a personal question, Vic?” said a staff member who knows Mom well. “Fire away,” I answered. “Was your Mom ever sexually...
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Practical and Metaphorical
This is one of the best definitions and analogies of dementia I have ever heard. It is written by Dr. Steven Rubin, M.D. “ “Dementia”...
- 5 min
Outside Looking In, Part 3, Finale
I am very very proud of you for continuing to read all of Outside Looking In! Boy did I appreciate everyone's constructive feedback for...
- 4 min
False Memories and Compassionate Misinformation
After yesterday’s writing about Mom remembering the feeling of something either traumatic or joyfully heart-felt, I’d be remiss if I...
- 3 min
Another Dip Without Sprinkles
Two days ago I received a phone call from The Seasons where Mom lives, telling me Mom had taken “a turn,” a red flag that something was...
- 1 min
Maria Shriver Highlights Alzheimer's
Maria Shriver, whom I have respected and admired for many many years, highlighted Alzheimer's on the Today Show. If you missed it, please...
- 4 min
When Less is More
It is still astonishing to me that even as much as Mom has declined of late, she still remembers, and asks about, the cabin and when we...
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Nothing Lasts Forever
-This is a blog I wrote over a year ago. I am re-posting it today by request... Later this morning I am taking Mom up to the cabin. It...
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Breaking a Routine
Boundaries will keep your cheese from sliding off your cracker. I was reminded how hard it was for Mom and I to break our familiar...
- 3 min
The Aggressive & Violent Symptoms of Dementia
Yesterday’s blog attempted to unravel the wisdom of the caregiver’s quote, “The worse it gets, the easier it gets.” However, for many...
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Is this phrase an oxymoron?
"The worse it gets, the easier it gets," is a caregiver's phrase I heard about six years ago. At the time, I could not wrap my head...
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Hats Off, Brava
Many of us face hostility and outright opposition from our loved one when we ask them to shower, or dress, or even eat a meal. It’s a...
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Does Confusion Get Worse When They are Sick?
A 2011 entry in my journal described a frustrating, confusing couple of hours. I had Alzheimer’s Support group in the morning, then...
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A Quick Cognitive Test
Running across this blog and the cognitive test could be your next step. The second message is learn tunnel vision, simply do what is in...
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Easy to Get Faked Out
Yesterday, I received a call from Brookdale Senior Living saying that they were running low on Ducolax, a medication that Mom takes. I...
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Mother's Day
Mother’s Day this year was as unpredictable as any other day and quite different from the scenario at Easter. Mom’s moods vary with this...
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When Personal Hygiene Takes A Back Seat
Mom’s personal hygiene has declined more than usual lately. She hugged me hello, and both she and her apartment smelled off. I was also...
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Easter Sunday
I’ve mentioned this before, but I didn’t realize how difficult it would be to blog about Mom with dementia. It’s hard enough living...
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Overwhelm Overtime and Time Out
“Pick one thing, Laurel. Just one task to take care of this morning,” I said when listening to my friend. Laurel had just finished...
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Acceptance Can Really Bite
A very good friend of mine, Carol, is in the beginning stages of taking care of her mother with dementia. It began suddenly Christmas...
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