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Vic, Mom and Sue, 2006

"You are not going to be the same person at the end of this journey as you were when you started. 

 

You are either going to be harder, more brittle, more closed off, or you are going to be softer, more open and more compassionate. 

 

It is a matter of choice.  And it is the choices you make every step of the way."  Patti Davis

FORGIVE AND FORGET ADDRESSES: 

Exhaustion

Self Doubt

Depression

Role Reversal

Worry

Vulnerability

The Guilts

 

"It matters to me who and what we are becoming as a caregiver.    

Forgive and Forget will help you build your character for life, inside and outside caregiving"  -Vic, Founder of Forgive and Forget

Denial

A New Normal

Contentious Siblings

Know-it -All's

Unpredictability

Caregiving is about your survival first.

Then we do our best to keep our loved one safe,

calm, comfortable and happy, and in that order.  

Boundaries

Loneliness

Isolation

The #1 reason a caregiver becomes ill or dies:

Very little successes with NO positive feedback.  

Change

Letting Go

Tough Love

Grief

The top 5 things a caregiver needs to understand are:

  • We cannot fix dementia

  • We cannot control dementia

  • We are not at the expense of dementia or caregiving

  • Every caregiver's path is unlike anyone else's.  Do not compare

  • Every dementia patient's path is different.  Symptoms are similar, but not exactly the same.  Do not compare.  

Seeing the Signs

Accepting the Signs

Forgiving Ourselves

Powerlessness

Death

Signs a caregiver is in trouble:

  • Highly fatigued

  • No energy

  • Irritable, impatient, and angry

  • Cynical and detached

  • Depressed, sleep deprived, moody

  • Feel they have accomplished very little or nothing

  • No concentration

  • Forgetful.  Acting like our loved one and wondering if WE have dementia!

 

We will once again find,

Meaning, Graditude

And Joy~

"I believe we cannot do this job honorably without growing personally. I am here to help you survive."  -Vic

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Susie, Mom and Vic, 1964

"There is no normal life, Wyatt. 

There's just life."

Doc Holliday
- Val Kilmer, "Tombstone"