It matters to me who and what you are becoming as a caregiver.
A New Normal
Caregiving is about your survival first.
Then we keep our loved one safe, calm,
comfortable, and happy - in that order.
The top 5 things a caregiver needs to understand are:
We cannot fix dementia
We cannot control dementia
We are not at the expense of dementia or caregiving
Every caregiver's path is unlike anyone else's. Do not compare
Every patient's path with dementia is different. Symptoms are similar, but not exactly the same. Do not compare.
Seeing the Signs
Accepting the Signs
Signs a caregiver is in trouble:
Irritable, impatient, and angry
Cynical and detached
Depressed, sleep-deprived, moody
Feel they have accomplished very little or nothing
Forgetful. Acting like our loved one and wondering if WE have dementia!-Information from the Alzheimer's Association, 2022
"Come this way... Let's go for a walk and talk about it..."
-Vic, Founder of Forgive and Forget
No obligation. No contract. No money.
No offense taken. Honest.
"There is no normal life, Wyatt.
There's just life."
- Val Kilmer, "Tombstone"
"You are not going to be the same person at the end of this journey as you were when you started.
You are either going to be harder, more brittle, more closed off, or you are going to be softer, more open, and more compassionate.
It is a matter of choice. And it is the choices you make every step of the way."
-Patti Davis, Nancy, daughter of Nancy and President Ronald Reagan